They must know that if they disappoint you, you won’t destroy them, you’ll simply erase them, as if they had never existed. And that hurts even more.
If people don’t respect you, it’s because they’re not afraid of disappointing you, and if they’re not afraid of disappointing you, it’s because you’ve never made it clear what happens when they do.
You’re one of those who forgive without consequences, who thinks of second, third, and fourth chances until you look like a joke.
Machiavelli stated clearly: those who wish to be loved and feared simultaneously often end up being despised because they attempt to please while imposing.
This approach is ineffective.
Respect stems from one fundamental principle: predictability. True authority starts with one guideline: predictable punishment- not emotional, impulsive, or angry- predictable like the law of gravity.
When someone disappoints you, they understand that a consequence will follow. You don’t need to scream or threaten; you need to act. Once, twice, and that’s sufficient.
People learn quickly when the consequences are non-negotiable.
They must be afraid of disappointing you. And that way, you won’t need to raise your voice.
The absence of someone who commands respect is worth much more than the presence of someone who begs for it.
Make sure your absence is feared.
They must know that if they disappoint you, you won’t destroy them, you’ll erase them as if they had never existed. And that hurts even more.
People respect those who punish, but they admire those who offer a way out, but only one, because offering more is not redemption but weakness.
What are your thoughts on this?
We all encounter disrespect in our daily lives. Fortunately, we can overcome this condition and face it head-on without becoming the bad guys in a Marvel comic.
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“Wishes you all the best.”
Marcello